Can you explain something to me or try… I simply don't understand how two people can mutually feel an insane draw toward one another, can share a deep passion for a period of time together... and the timing doesn't work out and one person leaves completely, moves on and is fine, and the other is left in their wake feeling it all for the both of them? How can the one person move on as if the experience never happened? I've tried so hard to understand
But it’s conceptual. The entire concept of actually “moving on” might feel like that to you and it might as well feel entirely different to the other person. You can’t hunt for what’s “mutual” because you can’t and will not know ever for sure whether a certain sensation is mutual. It might feel like being but it can also be just you tricking yourself into thinking that it is. People feel compelled to distance themselves from what they can’t or aren’t willing to comprehend but it doesn’t always mean that they’re confused or are abandoning you. And they walk away from you and you’re left feeling weak and empty of emotion because you obviously wish that the pain of separation would be shared but that’s just…no. That’s just you being selfish in your individual pain; that’s you experiencing some sort of lack. That lack is yours. It demands to be felt. If an aching absence is the only thing you’re currently feeling then that demands to be felt as well. But you can’t demand/or expect out of another person, however deeply you might feel still connected to your or not, to perceive the things you perceive or experience the same emotions you’re experiencing. This is not a case of understanding; it’s a case of acceptance and knowing how to let go gracefully especially since you’ve no clue regarding the other person’s take on things. Even if you did know, even if he/she had made his/her ways clear, it might have still felt like they gave up on you. But you’re responsible for your own feelings and they’re responsible for theirs. That doesn’t mean that you get to be the victim and they get to be the cold, heartless villain. People have their reasons when they do walk away. I believe they do. But sometimes it’s just something they have to do and they owe no explanations to anyone, including you or me or the world. It might have nothing to do with you in the first place, keep that in mind. It might be just them being unapologetical and fulfilling their need to just leave. It’s just selfish holding yourself responsible for what you shouldn’t.
Appreciate the bluntness..